goal for today, besides breathing deeply

The next time that your child is misbehaving, imagine that he is
wearing a big sign around his neck that says… “I want to belong and feel
significant, but I don’t know how to do it.” Instead of reprimanding for the
misbehavior – stop what you are doing and give him a hug. Reinforce in his mind
that he belongs is significant.
I will add to this, know that he is determinded, and knows what he wants and what he is doing, work through it with him, have a bit of patience.
I will redirect the behavior and do my best to be the best I can today and know that children will follow your lead, no matter where you are leading them.